I've titled them live.love.lifeskills, simple wisdom they need to know and be okay with in life. The better they know it now,
the easier it'll be when they're older. What do you find saying to your kids over and over again? Email me and I'll add it to the list!
Know when to eat and drink, don't let yourself get hangry, slungry (sleepy hungry), slangry (sleepy, angry and hungry) or even upstrated (upset and frustrated)... all words made up by my youngest. Please don't wait for me to offer you snacks/food if you're hungry. The kitchen pantry is available to you any time of the day. You’re capable of feeding yourself and eating something that you actually like!
When a problem arises, more often than not, I hear a roundabout story of what went wrong because so and so didn't do this or that....or the default excuse "but I didn't touch it!" When I showed this piece to my eldest, she laughed because she KNOWS EXACTLY what this means.
"Mum. Can you get that thing over there? You know...that thing..."
I'm guilty of this too....I'm sure they learnt it off me. Please try and use more descriptive words to explain the situation (or yourself) better so we are all spared from a lengthy guessing game.
Most of the time we say the first thing that comes out of our mouth, especially when we are familiar with that person. However, there are times when we need to think about how others might react to what we say. Are you being kind? Helpful? Are you saying too much? Do they really need to know that?
Our youngest is an introvert and is finally coming out of her 'meltdown' phase where she would clam up if there's a problem. We want her to know that her opinion, thoughts and choices matter to us and have been constantly reminding her that she needs to talk about them so we can help her better.
Don't be afraid to ask a question that you think will be answered with a "No". Don’t let this fear stop you from asking questions, but continually asking the SAME question repeatedly will not magically change the answer to a "Yes". You need to be okay with a No.
You will eventually miss out on opportunities when you continually focus on the what if's. When you think about "how you will get things done" you will actually get these things done!
Chances are, when you are aware of your surroundings you're less likely to bump or walk into things and hurt yourself. And if something or someone is making you uncomfortable, leave or find someone you trust who can help you.
Like directions. Or what time I'll be picking you up from a friend's house. It's important to know when to listen intently because you may miss out on information you'll need later.